Saturday, March 5, 2011

The joys of being single.

   When I say I'm enjoying being single I get looks which range from pitying to disbelieving.

   It's true though and I'm not saying it to be different or to play hard-to-get. I like being able to be selfish sometimes, I enjoy being able to treat myself to something and not have to explain to someone why I didn't ask them to get it for me. I love being able to decide to go out with friends and not have to tell someone or worry about them feeling abandoned and unloved.

   I also feel I've grown so much more as a person these past two years I don't feel ready to give up on the woman I am becoming just to pander to other people's  expectations!

   I believe in love, companionship, marriage and all that jazz but I also believe that it happens when a person is ready and that there's really no set time frame to determine when that may be. There's a great line from Buffy the Vampire Slayer (BTW I'm pretty sure this show has a quote for any occasion) where Buffy likens herself to cookie dough ": I'm cookie dough. I'm not done baking. I'm not finished becoming who ever the hell it is I'm gonna turn out to be. I make it through this, and the next thing, and the next thing, and maybe one day, I turn around and realize I'm ready. I'm cookies. And then, you know, if I want someone to eat m- or enjoy warm, delicious, cookie me, then that's fine. That'll be then. When I'm done. "

 Once I am as fully formed as I can be as an individual(or a cookie) I'll meet someone is also fully  formed and we will compliment NOT complete each other.

On the other hand if Richard Armitage or Gerard Butler were to propose to me tomorrow I would be planning a wedding ASAP :)


  1. Thumbs UP, yet I would like to add that due to your half English roots save you the famous question "Why aren't you married yet" from every single woman from both sides of ur family ; unless this happens everywhere globally!

    My list would be: Gerard Butler, Edward Norton and Richard Gere, No age, religion or conditions restrictions =)

  2. Definitely agree that Buffy has a quote for any occasion! Also agree with everything else. Right now, my life is too full to really get to know someone and maintain a relationship. I'm just not that interested in having a relationship at the moment. Thankfully, no one ever asks me why I'm not hooked up yet!

    Richard Armitage, David Tennant, Colin Morgan or Bradley James for me... Oh and Aidan Turner. Um, perhaps I'm not as picky as I thought...

  3. I agree with all your list Nikki, I just thought I should limit myself a bit! Too many choices...


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